Tough Love Reasons You’re Struggling To Stick To A Routine


Creating healthy habits and routines that we actually stick to for the long run is difficult – but have you stopped to think about why exactly you’re experiencing so much trouble with it?

I can tell you first-hand that there are probably one or two specific reasons that you’re struggling to create and work on your routines. So today, I’m taking a page from my coach Sheila’s book and giving you some tough love AND advice on how to fix these problems. Because when it comes to our goals and our wellness (and creating the routines that will get us there!), sometimes a little tough love is a good thing!


4 Tough love reasons you’re struggling to stick to a routine

1. You’ve accepted the unhealthy habits

We’ve all been there – the alarm goes off and our mind instantly says “just stay in bed a little longer, you can afford ten more minutes of sleep.”

But really, when has that ten minutes ever truly been beneficial? That little bit of extra shut eye will only do one of two things:

  1. Make you even more groggy and tired

  2. Make you rush around all morning before work

So tell me, do you REALLY think those extra ten minutes are worth it? Or do you think your time would be better spent on ten minutes of planning your day, ten minutes of yoga, ten minutes of picking out an outfit that makes you feel awesome, ten minutes of literally anything more productive than wishing you could just stay in bed all day long?

This is just one example of accepting an unhealthy habit – it’s something so small, yet if we do it every single day, it’ll destroy our chances of creating an inspiring morning routine.

What unhealthy habits have you gotten comfortable with? Make a list of some not-so-great habits that you’d like to work on over the next few weeks.

The fix:

For this particular scenario, right when you wake up, think about one super small, yet productive thing you can do to start your morning off strong – it can be anything from thinking of three things you’re grateful for, to stretching in bed, to drinking a glass of water. Just picture yourself doing that one manageable and motivating task as soon as the alarm goes off, and you’ll have no trouble getting up and getting at your morning routine.

For each of your unhealthy habits, try to think of a manageable way that you can counteract it. Spending too much time scrolling social media? Download a tracking app to see how much time you’re wasting on your phone (you’ll be appalled, trust me) and pick up a book instead of your cell. Munching on unhealthy foods out of boredom? Reach for something healthy instead, or drink a glass of water.


2. You haven’t found the right routine

Some days you rock your routines and others ya just can’t be bothered. You know that there are certain things you SHOULD be doing on a daily basis, but it just seems so difficult some days because you’re too tired, or too busy, or it just doesn’t freakin’ make you happy. 

Does this sound like you? If so, you may be struggling to create strong routines because you just haven’t found the ones that truly serve you yet. And girl, I get it! Finding the habits that work for us can be difficult because one day we feel like it’s really working for us and we’re being so productive, and then the next day we just don’t see the point in it.

That’s why we can’t be afraid to test things out and see what sticks. If there are certain things you know you should be doing (like exercise, washing your makeup off every night, cleaning up your bedroom, etc.) but just can’t make it work at the moment, try switching it up.

Put on Netflix while cleaning up to make it more enjoyable; try a new form of exercise instead of your usual routine; and dammit just wash your face because someday your 30-year-old self will thank you for it.

The fix:

Start out by finding inspiration – look on Pinterest for a list of habits that you can pull from to create your own routine.

After you’ve written down a few things you think you might like to try (start out with 5-10 small habits like making the bed, stretching, taking your vitamins), create a “schedule” of sorts.

Simply list out everything you’ll do each morning in order, and test it out for a week or two. Seriously try to stick to all of these habits for at least one week so you’ll know whether or not it’s working for you!

After a few days have gone by, check in with yourself and see which habits you like and which you could do without. Really think about what’s benefitting you and what’s just not serving you – and if there are any habits you should keep even if they aren’t your absolute favorite just yet.


3. You’re striving for perfection

If you’re the girl who says “I already blew my routine for the day so I might as well just be unproductive all day and try again tomorrow,” then I am lookin AT YOU.

The fact that, as humans, we are constantly learning, growing, and striving to be better just goes to show that our routines are never going to be perfect. We’re always going to want to try new things and find new ways to improve ourselves, so there’s truly no point in aiming for perfection.

Quote to live by: “Striving for perfection in any part of our lives is a recipe for failure, since it can never be attained.” Strive to do your best and show up for yourself every day. And know that that’s all it takes to spark major change in yourself.

The fix:

Know that it’s A-okay to take a day off every now and then. When stress or overwhelm start to creep in, give yourself a break and consider switching up your routine to make it better serve your self-care or wellness needs.

One thing that I like to remind myself off on these “days off” is that I literally have every day of the rest of my entire life to stick to my routine – a day off every few weeks won’t hurt me, as long as I get back on track the next day!

But also remember that having a routine doesn’t mean that every day has to look exactly the same. Having these routines is meant to keep us on track, but if we start to get bored with them or too used to them, then what’s the point? Try switching things up every now and then!


4. You don’t think you’re ready for change

It’s possible that if you’re struggling with creating healthy and inspiring routines, there’s something that’s just holding you back from doing so. You may not be ready mentally, emotionally or physically – and that’s alright! In order to initiate big changes in ourselves and our lives, we have to be open to it.

Change is never easy – especially when we have to find the motivation within ourselves to stick with these new routines. But keep in mind that change does tend to be a good thing, especially when it’s something as incredible as bettering ourselves and our day-to-day lives.

The fix:

Try to spend some time thinking about what might be holding you back. Really dig deep here – do you have a limiting belief that you can’t accomplish your goals or don’t deserve them? Do you just feel too comfortable with where you’re currently at in life?

After spending some time reflecting on what’s stopping you, think about small modifications you can make to initiate change. Sometimes it just takes small tasks to realize that change is something we do want. Try waking up just ten minutes earlier, or drinking more water each day, or picking up a new hobby.

This may just inspire you and wake you up to the realization that you are ready and worthy of change!

Which of these tough love reasons sounds like you? Leave a comment below to let me know and we'll work on solving it together!